My 38 year old daughter is a long-time drug addict, a manipulator, and notably the mom of my 3 year old grandson. My grandson lives with my ex-husband but comes to me regularly for long weekends. My daughter comes here to be with her son under my watchful eye. She is still using and lying about it, and my grandson loves her dearly and needs to see her and be with her. I supervise the visits, though I am certain she would never do harm. Recently we believe she stole from us. My dilemma is not bringing more negative emotions into our environment. I am a kind person and don’t want to be otherwise. Yet her disease is impacting us.

It’s complex. She’s sick. It’s sad. I love my daughter but don’t really trust her. What is the most conscious way I can be around her and communicate with her?

Thank you so much for sharing such a big challenge.

Whenever children are involved it feels so much bigger and important. It’s tricky because your daughter is also your child. However

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, she is an adult and the focus really becomes your grandson. Is he at risk physically, mentally, or emotionally? If so, that must be the immediate priority. What I share below are options about how you can interact with your daughter differently once you know your grandson isn’t in any risk.

These thoughts come to me immediately:

That doesn’t mean “anything goes” or “take what you want” or “treat me disrespectfully.”

They are not the same things.
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It may be silly question, but how do I know what I feel? I sort of assume that what I feel is my feeling; why else I would feel it? I guess that most of the time I am lost in understanding what exactly I feel, have no idea how deep or shallow I should engage in it and what is important about it. My emphatic skills don’t make it any more simple.

This question really hits close to home. I spent decades completely overwhelmed by the feelings/emotions/energy of others. Some people call it empathic, psychic, or sensitive. Whatever you call it, I can experience the feelings of others and those feelings can mix with and override my awareness of my own truth. I never knew what to do about this, until Eloheim taught me.

I remember:

Now for the constructive aspects:

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Eloheim and I respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s teachings can work in your life!

Veronica,

Good morning!

You asked me 8 days ago to provide a brief blurb for a case study. Honored, in fact thrilled to have that invitation for greater connection, I agreed, and said I would send that to you by about a week ago.

I have been meaning to get to it every day. Of course I’m busy…in fact, in a way, that’s part of the issue I want to address, right? I know I could have chosen time to complete it regardless, but instead I just toyed mentally with different approaches to the paragraph, and procrastinated. Then got into one of those little vortices of resistance, feeling badly that I was not following through as promised, thinking about e-mailing to let you know, then: “Well if I’m going to do that, I might as well just hammer out that little paragraph first,” yet feeling like I wanted a relaxed, focused space to do that, which didn’t seem to be showing up.

Sorry not to have kept my word– not that you’re likely to mind terribly, but I do! And I will get to that few sentences, um… any day now!

Thanks so much for so generously sharing so much stellar material.

Love,

Susan

I replied

🙂 I think I should use just what you wrote here! It’s perfect.

It reminds me of way back when I had a business helping small business owners organize their offices. One of the most common comments was, “I will call you as soon as I clean up!” I said, “It’s better if I see it just as it is now so I can really see what’s going on!”

Susan replied:

Really? Wow, then I feel let off the hook! Almost too easy.

Happily,
Susan

I share the entire email exchange because it really shows the challenge

Needing to have it be “just right” (that perfectionism thing!)

Being mean to self

and perhaps the biggest challenge:

Not really knowing what the actual problem is

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One of my superhero powers is the ability to know things or to have clarity. My challenge has been with acting on my clarity. I have been looking at what focus and priority mean to me to strengthen my relationship to acting on my clarity that has helped a little. Acting on my clarity has been scary.

The concept that some folks don’t know how to be rich feels similar to how I feel, they win the lottery and then they are right back where they started a year later.

I have an abundance of clarity and Acting on my clarity requires energy, focus, commitment and responsibility. I have a few favorite familiar sufferings that I use to avoid moving forward with my clarity. One being using overwhelm to avoid focus and to avoid stretching myself.

Thank you for sharing!

I love your clarity about your clarity and about your stuck spot.

Let’s start right off with an Eloheim’s Tool
Clarity vs. Certainty

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Eloheim and I are going to respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s teachings can work in your life!

I work full time in a day job that I now hate. It is draining and they want more and more from me.

I recently certified as a coach as I love helping people towards their dreams. I have my own dreams as a singer but none of us are ready to tour and I don’t know how we would bring in money without live shows. So while I’m pursuing it as a dream, it wouldn’t be my livelihood.

I also have aging parents across the country and want to see them much more often.

My intention is to set up a coaching business from home which will give me the opportunity to travel (and still work with clients) and move from from my full time job to this.

The problem: We have a large amount of debt that we are faithfully paying down but it’s still big enough that I don’t know how to leave the day job soon enough. Any advice would be so wonderful.

Thanks for sharing!

I know this confusing pile of thoughts feeling so well! I even have an image I use to represent it!

All my noodles (thoughts) are mixed together and so confusing.

My first step is to lay out each thought individually. This helps calm me and also helps me catch Equal Signs. Equal Signs is Eloheim’s tool for noticing when we are connecting one thought (or outcome) to another habitually.
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Eloheim and I are going to respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s teachings can work in your life!

I have an issue with not feeling accomplished or successful even though I’ve been blessed with many creative gifts/ talents. I struggle with little money, I live in a not very attractive place, I feel like I have limited myself. I remember when I was young wondering why I had friends who had “successful” parents who had nice homes, were doctors, lawyers, etc. and I wondered, what was wrong with us? My parents struggled to survive and my mom was always stressed because we never had enough money and it made me afraid. Why were we struggling when there were others that seemed prosperous. My question was, were we somehow not worthy? Am I not good enough?

I wanted to add that there may even be a bit of fear of being more successful/powerful.

Thanks for sharing

I really feel the pain that you experienced as a child. It’s so easy to imagine that others have a better life. I can see how confusing that must have been. I feel like it’s best if we focus on the last part of your sharing. The part that the current version of you is dealing with.

Stepping into the BIG version of ourselves is supported by these four things.

1. Willingness
2. Facing uncertainty
3. Letting go of the desire for control
4. Knowing your truth

Let’s take them in order:

When I first started channeling, I was so nervous. “What would people think? What if it doesn’t work? Am I making it all up?” On and on and on it went. I would frequently cry in the car as I was driving to the meeting room. Yet, deep inside me, I knew it was my path. I’m sure I have said, “I am willing” ten thousand times if I’ve said it once. It’s a lifeline to connect my truth to this now and bypass my survival instinct telling me, “NO NO NO NO don’t try anything new, it could be dangerous!!!” I recommend I AM WILLING highly.

I am Willing

“I am willing to step forward and be conscious in this moment. I am willing to tell the truth. I am willing to be vulnerable. I am willing to show up as my complete self. I am willing to access my soul’s perspective.”

It’s not: “I’m willing to experience the pain.” It’s : “I’m willing.” Don’t program yourself to believe that it needs to be painful. It’s: “I’m willing, I’m willing, I’m willing, I’m willing.” This brings your free will into alignment with the energetic that your soul is presenting. It’s simple but powerful. It brings in the essence of you–meaning your integrity

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, your soul’s energetic–and cuts out all of the mental static. It puts your free will into play with one three-word statement. It’s a power phrase. The most powerful thing you have is free will; bring it to bear on the subject at hand.

Facing Uncertainty

One of Eloheim’s greatest teachings is their teaching on uncertainty. They even told us, “This is the most important thing we have ever told you” when they were focused on uncertainty. Things to know about uncertainty:

1. It’s constant. Do you know how your cell phone works? I don’t! That uncertainty doesn’t stop me from using it. We get really good at ignoring some uncertainties.

2. The uncertainties that we can’t ignore tend to freak us out. The Survival Instinct really doesn’t like uncertainty so it gets LOUD when you face uncertainty you can’t ignore. We make the equal sign between uncertainty and danger. That really makes it hard to explore anything new with any sort of comfort.

3. Uncertainty is the place where everything new comes from. It’s the blank canvas. It’s the birthplace of creativity. Healing your relationship to uncertainty gives you access to so much potential and juicy opportunities.

Equal Signs.

When we make an equal sign between uncertainty and mortal peril, we are making an equal sign between the place where we are creative and new and discover the BIG version of ourselves and actual physical danger. No wonder it’s hard to embrace the BIG version of ourselves!

This great video will help you understand how Equal Signs are holding you back.

Letting go of the desire for control

Ah, this one! Everyone I’ve ever met has some desire for control. Sometimes it’s a HUGE desire. Part of the challenge of being our BIG selves is that people will notice. When people notice, we won’t be able to control how they feel about us. The fear that can bring up can be enough to stop us even trying to be our BIG selves.

You can’t control how others react. Say it with me, “I can’t control how others react.”

What you can control is how YOU react, what you choose, and how you proceed. When you do that, you are offering your truth to the world AND you get to discover the BIG version of you.

Knowing Your Truth

Another Case Study includes quite a lot about knowing your truth. You can access that Case Study here.

Past Life Bleed Through

Another challenge along the path of living as our BIG selves is Past Life Bleed Through (Eloheim calls this Alternate Expression Bleed Through)

As we live more consciously and increase our sensitivity to our surroundings, we begin to experience past life bleed through. In many of our other lifetimes, standing out from the crowd got you killed. Past life bleed through can include a lot of messages that reinforce the “danger” of living as the BIG version of you. Thankfully, it’s much safer (in many parts of the world) to stand out in the crowd in this lifetime. You have the ability to heal this fear across your lifetimes. I have an entire talk on this powerful experience. You can learn more about it below.

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A few years back, Eloheim asked each member of the community what they most wished Eloheim could teach them. “How can I live as the BIG version of me?” was by far the most common answer. Each of Eloheim’s teachings is supportive of this wish. The movement into Homo spiritus is an evolutionary leap for humanity. That’s BIG!!!

Thanks again for sharing,

Veronica & Eloheim

According to Eloheim, Past lives are more accurately described as Alternate. As time is not linear, all lifetimes are happening simultaneously. The result of this is that information from other lifetimes can bleed through into this one.

Veronica began the call by explaining what the bleed throughs mean and gave her own personal example of “Boris,” the suicidal cello player. Veronica says that the more spiritual work you do, the more likely it becomes that you will tap into your alternate expressions. She then described ways to recognize and interact with them to get the most out of the experience.

Eloheim joined the conversation at this point, and before taking callers, talked more about AEs, emphasizing we are ascending ALL of our lifetimes, not just this one.

The question and answer session that followed was lively and informative and included revealing Alternate Expressions of the callers.
Among the questions asked were:

Is the loss of a child in another lifetime affecting this one?
Can you speak to the guilt and shame I feel about smoking?
I have left knee issues. Can you help me with the block around healing it?
I have follow up questions about my sound channeling.
I signed up for a class and now I have resistance around being told how to get ready for it.

90 minute audio recording

The Uncertainty Series

Over 6 HOURS of Audio

How does my computer actually work? How many blades of grass are there in my garden? Is it going to rain today?

When will I find love? How will I pay these bills? Will I ever reach my fullest potential?

These recordings support you as you heal your relationship to uncertainty leading to a calmer, more centered, more confident approach to life.

Eloheim has stated: “This is the most important information we have ever given you.”

Uncertainty Series
 

Eloheim and I are going to respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s teachings can work in your life!

Still struggling with a feeling of people taking advantage of me or being put upon. I had put a current example but deleted it as its going on the website. I realize that in order to avoid conflict I accept responsibility for failings that are not necessarily mine or do things I don’t really want to in order to keep the peace. In this current situation my time off of work is being ruined because of it and I’ve been wide awake since being rudely awakened at 5am. I decided that this year I was not going to allow myself to be put upon anymore so there’s something in this situation that will aid that change. At the same time I don’t want to be mean or selfish to others, but that doesn’t mean allowing them to walk all over you…where is the third way in all of this? That’s what I’m trying to get to, without the usual outcome of me making myself wrong for the sake of it. I’ve still not stated my truth. This is what I tend to do stew and let it eat me up, but not speak up.

I’m also wondering about energetic leadership in all of this and whether, rather than it being weak not to respond in the heat of the moment (when it’s more likely to be an unconscious ego driven response) it might be better to reflect, process and then deal with the matter. However it’s then more difficult to bring the issue up again when it’s seemingly blown over and it’s easy to then leave it, but you haven’t been heard.

Thanks for sharing. This feels like a long-standing and sticky pattern.

It’s a very deep habit (that is shared by SO many people) to put your feelings last or at least have them really low down on your list of priorities. It’s also super common to swallow your truth rather than “rock the boat” by speaking up. Neither one of these habits leads to INNER peace. They may offer a time of no conflict, however, that’s not the same as true inner peace.

In my experience, in order to get out from under the feeling of people taking advantage of me or being put upon, you must seek for and value your personal truth. The finest support Eloheim has given us for this is the What is True Now tool. I’ve used this tool more than any of the others that Eloheim has taught. It’s extraordinary simply and powerful beyond description when consistently applied.

What Is True Now?

Asking yourself, “What is true now?” is a way of coming into and staying connected to the moment. Answer the question with obvious things: I’m wearing blue pants. It’s Tuesday. I’m sitting down. The sun is shining. Use whatever you find yourself noticing.
This is a powerful way to interrupt habitual patterns and can be used anywhere and at any time. What is true now? I’m lying in bed. I’m driving the car. I’m holding a spoon.

Each time you do this, you bring yourself out of the hamster-wheel mind and into the now.

Additionally, “What is true now?” will also help you connect to your soul’s insight.

Once you are in the moment, further inquiry can lead to answers that are not coming from your mind. What is true now begins to be answered by an “aha” from the soul.

By asking yourself what is true now constantly, you’re creating a very quick way to become present in the moment and you’re developing a strong connection between you and your soul.

If what is true now is answered by a sentence of, say, more than say 10 words, it’s your mind. An “aha” from the soul is going to be shorter than that. It doesn’t need to be lengthy because it’s not processed by the mind. It’s an energetic truth expressed briefly in order to really sink in. If what is true now starts to have a lengthy explanation, suspect that the mind is encroaching on the soul’s turf and ask the mind to shut up.

When used with consistency and consciousness, what is true now can be used to uncover unconscious coping mechanisms and lies that you tell yourself.

The temptation is often quite strong to do what Eloheim calls 50th step. The 50th step is so far from the moment. It’s not even a real place! It’s an imagined future. In your case, perhaps it’s an imagined future where work or home life is changed by you speaking up. Your fear of what the 50th step might be like keeps you from acting in the now, on the step you are actually on.

Change doesn’t have to be huge. In fact, small changes consistently sought add up to powerful transformation that doesn’t fling you out to the 50th step or overwhelm your survival instinct (and your body).

My experience has been that constantly accessing my personal truth, speaking up early and often, and setting needed boundaries as soon as I notice they are called for, leads to balanced relationships.

You mentioned

I don’t want to be mean or selfish to others. This characterization of “speaking up” is common and so unkind to self. Speaking up is not selfish; it is self-centering. It is allowing people to see who you really are. You are not being mean, you are actually being tenderly vulnerable and it’s an incredible place of strength and a GIFT you give others.

When you stand up for your truth and share it, your relationships will start to change. They must change as you are different. YOU WANT THEM TO CHANGE so this is GOOD NEWS! However, this means that other people will have to adapt to this change. You can’t control how they adapt. You CAN consistently continue to access your truth and share it. If you are trying to control the outcome of sharing your truth, you will find a great challenge. If you commit to being in relationships where your truth is honored and sought out, then your current relationships will change as they respond to that commitment. Some relationships may end. That’s a fact of growth and evolution. Some relationships may not be a match for the you that accesses her current truth.

An Eloheim idea that helps me with this challenge

You said I tend to do stew and let it eat me up, but not speak up.

What would you tell your daughter to do in this situation? Or the child of a close friend? Would you say, “Keep quiet, keep letting it eat you up, keep walking on egg shells, don’t risk anything changing.”?

You said That’s what I’m trying to get to, without the usual outcome of me making myself wrong for the sake of it. I’ve still not stated my truth.

How can anyone know what you need or how to help with this challenge if you don’t share your truth?

I’ve read your submission over and over again.

What I read and see is someone who is really really trying to have better connections with others. Someone who really wants to honor herself as well. The missing link is letting people truly see you. I know that you edited your post for privacy. I totally get that. However, it also feels like part of the problem. You didn’t share the full story. You gave me an contorted version. I suspect that this is a common energetic in your relationships. You contort your truth to fit rather than speaking it clearly and letting the chips fall where they may.

An easy tool that can help when you speak up is Feet Under Shoulders

Feet Under Shoulders

This is a quick way to ask yourself if you are coming from a balanced and centered place. “Are my feet under my shoulders?” It’s a very important tool for those that are working to heal service mentality.

This is also a powerful tool when you find yourself trying to convince someone you are right. Are you leaning forward to make your point or are you centered within yourself?

The best tool for changing a situation. You can be SO creative with this one. At home, you can rearrange things. Move the glasses to the cupboard where you keep the pots and pans. Put the silver wear under the sink. At work, park in a different place, walk to your desk via a different path, drink your coffee with the other hand. Do anything, just do new things. Let it be entertaining!

Mad Scientist

Before you leave a situation that you are unhappy with, consider experimenting within the situation.

Let’s say you are in a job you do not like. Rather than find a new job, try staying in the present situation awhile longer, but approach it in a brand new way.

Become the mad scientist and start experimenting, and by experimenting we mean changing what you think the outcome of you being in your integrity is. You think you can’t be in your integrity because you’ll get fired or because they won’t like you or because, because, because. You have all these projections, all these fears about what being in your integrity means. Change your energetic and see how it plays out. You don’t like where you are now, so it’s worth taking a chance that it could get better, and you will learn a lot about yourself in the process. Make what you are not happy with your little factory for experimentation.

Show up at work, sit down, and instead of saying, “God, look at all this work, look at all these voicemails, and oh, the boss is already yelling at me,” try this, “OK, I’m a mad scientist today and this is my factory. What do I want to create? How do I want to be in this space? I don’t mind the work. I mind the attitudes. So, how are those attitudes resonating with some part of me? How is my angry boss just a voice in my head that’s really loud when it comes out of somebody else’s mouth?”

You are able to look at things in a new way because you are not requiring the situation to stay the same in order for you to feel safe. You use the process of experimentation to create a reality with less suffering and more self-awareness.

Experiment!

I know that it can be a big change to speak your truth in the ways I have described.

Start with small things that don’t feel Earth shattering. Build up to the things that feel more challenging. Create a healthy habit. This will serve you in ALL areas of your life.

Many blessings

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Veronica & Eloheim

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Once the dates are set, you may reschedule one of the 15 minute sessions at no cost. Additional rescheduling will incur a $25 charge per change.
 

Eloheim and I are going to respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s teachings can work in your life!

Last year a few of my long term friends have decided to suddenly cut me out of their lives. Although I am able to respect their choice, I have a hard time comprehending their reasons, as I know myself to be a very loyal friend. There was no overt reason that I could see, nothing was communicated. I feel I am in a loop where I try to understand them for being able to simply turn away from a friendship after decades of shared experiences. It triggers a pattern that speaks of being unwanted and my knee jerk reaction is to withdraw into myself.

Ah, I know from personal experience how painful and confusing this one is!

The nature of relationship seems to be changing. I’ve found myself having profoundly short (as in the time it take to pump gas into my car!) relationships that I even grieve a bit for even though they don’t have any of the hallmarks of a traditional relationship. I mean, I didn’t even talk to this person! I just pumped gas near him and I felt like we had an entire relationship during those few minutes. The first time it happened, it really unnerved me. Now, I try to be super present in all of these brief encounters as they are revealing so much more than they used to.

Your description is quite different of course. You had long-standing connections with these folks. The Eloheim teaching that helps me the most in situations like this is: We Are No Longer a Match. Acknowledging that we have become mismatched gives my brain something to do in the absence of knowing the answer to

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, “Why?!?”

People grow and evolve (or don’t) and can become energetically mismatched.

Here is a page from the booklet of our Levels of Creating deck describing Level 5: This Experience is Mine. In it, Eloheim reminds us that friendships change as we evolve.

You also said:

It triggers a pattern that speaks of being unwanted and my knee jerk reaction is to withdraw into myself.

Try the Look out the Window tool when you get stuck in this pattern of only seeing the rejection. It’s a different way of using this tool; I suspect it will be helpful. It’s so easy to fixate on the confusing parts of our lives. This tool helps you see the more that is also present.

Look out the Window

Many people have said to us, “Nothing changes in my life. I don’t feel abundant and I don’t know how to be in the moment.” This one tool with help with all three issues!

Each day spend some time gazing out the same window. It’s great to try and do this at the same time each day, but it’s not essential that you do. As you gaze out the window, require yourself to notice something that you have never noticed before. It may be something obvious, like a bird on a branch or it may be something more subtle, like the shade of green in the leaves or a shadow on the sidewalk. At first, you may be tempted to say that nothing has changed; however, there IS something different. Look deeper.

This practice will help you recognize the changes that are constantly occurring all around you. Developing these new neural pathways will make it easier for you to recognize the changes that are happening in YOUR life.

Each time you look out the window you will notice more and more aspects of your world. As you start to see your surroundings as “full” you will begin to notice fullness in other parts of your life as well. As you see the abundance in one area of your life, you will learn to see the abundance that surrounds you in all areas of your life.

This practice asks you to hold still and BE. Be sure to notice your body relaxing as you take this time. It’s a lovely way to be self-loving and access the moment.

We suggest teaching this tool to children. They will grasp it immediately.

It’s also super important not to beat yourself up as a result of these changed relationships. Eloheim has only ever given us one rule: Don’t be mean to yourself

Don’t Be Mean to Yourself (Four-Year-Old Child)

If there’s something you genuinely want to change about yourself, you don’t have to be mean to yourself in order to change it. Take a moment and let that sink in. You don’t have to be mean to yourself to change.

You don’t berate a child about learning to walk, or talk, or write. You say, “Hey, it’s OK, let’s try it again.”

Yet, you will be extremely critical of yourself at nearly any opportunity.

How do you know if you are being mean to yourself? If you’re talking to yourself in a voice that you wouldn’t use with a four-year-old child, especially somebody else’s four-year-old child, you’re being mean to yourself.

When you find yourself being hard on yourself, simply ask, “Would I say this to a pre-schooler?”

No, you would not.

It’s OK to have a new plan or to desire something different for the future or to reevaluate how you handled a situation; that’s all growth. But beating yourself up is so contrary to everything we teach that we have made it our only rule: You don’t get to be mean to yourself.

Oh, and be aware that someday soon we are going to evolve this tool. Someday soon, we are going to lower the age. It will be, “You can’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a toddler or an infant.” Since you can be fascinated by EVERYTHING an infant does (Oh look, it’s a poo poo!), you can, eventually, be fascinated by anything YOU do, as well. Imagine that!

In the end, you may never understand why your friends made this decision. I find comfort in this Eloheim idea:

If thinking could have solved it, it would have solved it long ago because you sure have thought about it enough.

Remember: Understanding is overrated

You’ve been taught that “understanding” is a worthy goal. You use your amazing brain to “wrap your mind around” something until you understand it. We say “understanding is overrated” to remind you that understanding something with your mind isn’t the only way you can interact with it. There is a vast amount of insight from your soul that you can access on any subject. Reminding yourself that “understanding is overrated” will help you break the habit of limited thinking and remember to open to your soul’s perspective.

Continue to grow and invest in yourself! As you do this, you will magnetize people who resonate with the current version of you. People who appreciate and desire to connect to your truth. People who value what you value now.

Many Blessings,
Veronica & Eloheim

In 2014, we made the Levels of Creating Deck.

I have been channeling Eloheim for twelve years.

For the first nine years, I feel I was getting ready to channel this material.

For the next three years, I channeled this specific material.

For the last six months, I have been birthing this material into the physical.

It’s incredibly powerful and I’m thrilled to share it with you!

~ Veronica

Beautifully designed and offers a clear method for getting away from old habits and repetitive thinking. It’s easy to follow and can lift your mood in no time!

Many people ask, “I know I create my reality, but why did I create this?” Still others are trapped in a cycle of feeling like a victim and beating themselves up for not being able to break out of that pattern.

The Levels of Creating offers step-by-step guidance, helps you change habits, and move into the life you have always dreamed of.

Every experience includes the potential of each Level.
Which Level are you in?

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I just got my create reality cards in the mail and I’m playing with them right now! So exciting!

It’s already working.

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still struggling with people deliberately living past me.. ignoring me completely. it emotionally hurts and I get stuck in attempting to get a response. or some clarity to the void they offer… being kind, curious but getting nothing in return leading to hurt and anger and oversharing and out of character behaviour to get a response. always returning for more emotional neglect ..like it is an unfinished project. it leads to an enormous waste of time and effort.. low self-worth. and oversharing..unhealthy it mostly happens with shallow selfish assholes that pride themselves in being unbothered towards you.. I slowly become hostile and rotten towards them..I’d rather live past them. stuck.

Thanks for sharing!

I can really feel the challenge as I read your words.

Whenever people report experiences that repeat over and over as you have (always returning for more emotional neglect, unfinished project, etc) I suspect that the Core Emotion is involved. Plus, over the years I’ve developed a bit of a 6th sense for when people are speaking from their Unhealed Core Emotion and that sense was screaming as I read your share.

Here is a two minute audio clip of Eloheim introducing the Core Emotion to a private session client.

Your core emotion is unique to you and unique to this lifetime. I have been working with my core emotion since 2004 and it still reveals powerful opportunities for transformation on a regular basis. It is the key to so much of my personal growth. It is quite common for people to report that a Core Emotion session changes their lives in less than an hour. Email eloheimchannel@yahoo.com for details about Core Emotion sessions.

Becoming conscious of your core emotion often answers questions along the lines of:

“Why does this keep happening?”
“Why do I always react that way even when I know it isn’t for my highest good?”
“Why do I feel stuck all the time?”

Awareness of the core emotion also tends to answer long standing questions like:

“Why did that relationship end the way it did?”
“Why didn’t that job work out?”

Eloheim will walk you through a step-by-step process which they have designed which allows them to determine your core emotion, to show you how it is showing up in your life now, and to teach you how to transform your relationship to it. Your unhealed core emotion can feel like a burden, however your healed core emotion is your greatest asset. Such powerful work!! Email eloheimchannel@yahoo.com for details about Core Emotion sessions.

Other things to keep in mind

You said: it mostly happens with shallow selfish assholes

Here is one of Eloheim’s ideas that’s be quite comforting to me over the years:

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There are at least 4 billion people on the planet who won’t agree with you, won’t like you, or will never meet you. This number is likely underestimated. When we say, “Oh, you have found one of the 4 billion,” it is not to dismiss or diminish their views, but to comfort you that this is a common phenomenon and put it into a perspective that hopefully helps you manage any triggers that come up. The energetics of this idea are similar to saying, “There are other fish in the sea.”

It feels like you are waiting for one of these folks to validate or permit you to be your truth. Choosing to interact with these types of people has the energy of “giving away your wax.”

Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)

This tool is based on an analogy: You are a candle. You can share your flame—your emanation—but don’t give away your wax—never, never, never, never. If you give away your wax, you give away yourself; who you are is diminished.

Your wax is that core amount of attention, of rest, of nourishment, of peace, of quiet, of meditation, of walking, of dancing, of whatever it is that you know feeds you as a person and keeps you whole. You’ve been letting pieces of these things go to other people because you thought, “Well, if they’re happy, I’ll be happy.” Or you thought, “If they’re happy, at least I won’t be so distracted by their needs.” The truth is this drains you and you’ll be further drained if you continue.

The first step is to set boundaries so that the people you’re giving your wax to don’t get any more wax. This change often elicits a strong reaction from others. It’s common for them to throw fits, call you selfish, or call you other names. Don’t allow their reaction to cause you to return to giving away your wax; that’s an unsustainable path.

Boundaries don’t mean: “I don’t love you anymore.” Boundaries mean: “To have love to give, I have to love myself first. I can’t give from this drained place. I have to give from a whole place.” If you keep giving from weakness, eventually you’ll have nothing left; but if you set boundaries, you rejuvenate yourself. When you drop service mentality and take care of yourself first, you’re able to offer something extraordinary. The candle is lit and the flame is giving off light. When you love yourself well, it’s like putting the candle on the windowsill so everyone can see its light.

Reorient your focus to YOUR experience of YOU!

What Is True Now?

Asking yourself, “What is true now?” is a way of coming into and staying connected to the moment. Answer the question with obvious things: I’m wearing blue pants. It’s Tuesday. I’m sitting down. The sun is shining. Use whatever you find yourself noticing.

This is a powerful way to interrupt habitual patterns and can be used anywhere and at any time. What is true now? I’m lying in bed. I’m driving the car. I’m holding a spoon.

Each time you do this, you bring yourself out of the hamster-wheel mind and into the now.

Additionally, “What is true now?” will also help you connect to your soul’s insight.

Once you are in the moment, further inquiry can lead to answers that are not coming from your mind. What is true now begins to be answered by an “aha” from the soul.

By asking yourself what is true now constantly, you’re creating a very quick way to become present in the moment and you’re developing a strong connection between you and your soul.

If what is true now is answered by a sentence of, say, more than say 10 words, it’s your mind. An “aha” from the soul is going to be shorter than that. It doesn’t need to be lengthy because it’s not processed by the mind. It’s an energetic truth expressed briefly in order to really sink in. If what is true now starts to have a lengthy explanation, suspect that the mind is encroaching on the soul’s turf and ask the mind to shut up.

When used with consistency and consciousness, what is true now can be used to uncover unconscious coping mechanisms and lies that you tell yourself.

Remember! You are a chooser and you are choosing how much of your attention you give to these interactions.

Choose and Choose Again

The transition from the fear-based operating system to the consciousness-based operating system is not done in a straight line. You must choose and choose again for transformation. Habit is very strong; the survival instinct runs very deep; cultural and DNA pressures are intense. Your choice to grow spiritually requires spiritual discipline and persistence. It is an act of committing and recommitting to the journey.

Remember: Fear (and habit) is a choice, not a mandate.

Thanks again for sharing your story!

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More on the Core Emotion

I had a session with Eloheim where I got to work out what my core emotion is for this lifetime. Wow! Talk about eye opening! It was definitely an Ah-ha moment. Just from asking some key questions, Eloheim was able to put together the core emotion from my answers. It was like getting the most important pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. Once they are in place you can see the big picture.

Looking over the past 46 years, I can see how my core emotion has been managing my relationships with family, friends and even my pets. I could sense there was a pattern, but I couldn’t figure out to make things better or even what the issue really was.

Because of this session, I now know what I need to work on and how to address it so that I can be more successful in my relationships. Because of my work with Eloheim, I now have a mantra that reminds me of my past patterns involving my core emotion and allows me to step outside the pattern and do things in a better, healthier way.

It’s almost a relief, because it feels as if I have moved to a different level that involves more self love

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, and that is okay. My session with Eloheim couldn’t have come at a better time. I had been struggling with some friendships that had run their course. After this session, I was able to make the decision to move on in a healthy positive way.

Thank you Eloheim for all your help, and thank you Veronika for having the courage to bring Eloheim to us.

Sincerely,
TP – Medford, OR

I felt very light and worry free after my core emotion session with Eloheim. . .it’s all for me and I now know how to frame my experiences to better understand what is being shown to me for my learning. Intellectually, I know other people and their behaviors/judgments don’t define me, and now I feel it differently – have encompassed it in a deeper way. I feel safe in myself in a new way. And now I have this tool, specifically for me thru knowledge of my core emotion, to help me be my authentic self when I’m tempted to evaluate myself thru the actions of others. I am so grateful for this experience. Thank you, Veronica and Eloheim! Kim

I deeply enjoyed my Core Emotion Session with Eloheim.

They are easy to talk to and their advice is very grounded and practical.

Finding out about my Core Emotion was immensely helpful for me. It explains a lot of situations in my past to me – why I reacted in a special way and what I can do now to change things. I already began to implement different techniques and my interactions with people became A LOT easier and more pleasant because I am now very clear about “how I tick.” That is a huge improvement for me!!!

After the session my life started to become more enjoyable and a lot of magic is taking place. I simply love it and I can recommend Eloheim very much. I also love the tools they share – they changed my life!!!!

Lots of love and thank you Veronica for making it all possible!
Diana in Austria

Eloheim and I are going to respond to real world examples of places that feel stuck and confusing for folks. My hope is that this will allow you to see how Eloheim’s work would work in your life!

My former husband has asked to borrow money from me and I have said NO 3 times. I have been divorced for two years. I know of no means of him paying me back anytime soon.

I feel guilt and it feels like shame as well.

He says I’m coming from lack by saying No and that brings up the guilt.

I feel it’s a smart decision to not open a door I have closed and have finally moved forward.

Thanks for sharing!

My first response is that it takes quite a lot of gall for him to accuse YOU being in lack while asking you for a loan! I mean, you have ABUNDANCE enough for him to imagine you are a good source of funds.

Two Eloheim teachings come to mind right away:

This one you are already mostly doing. YEAH!!

“No” is a Complete Sentence / Say “No” First

This tool allows you to set a boundary or state a preference without feeling the need to justify or make excuses for your position. You are not responsible for others’ reactions to your choices. Stating a preference is an act of free will.

A fascinating way to learn about boundaries, preferences, and “What is true now?” is to say “no” first. Just give it a try! Someone calls you up and asks you to go out. Say “no” first.

If you are habitually saying “yes” to keep other people happy, try saying “no” and seeing how it makes you feel. The result we have seen is that being able to just say “no” is incredibly liberating. Importantly, it gives you the time to actually find out how you feel. When you say “no” first, you can then consider your feelings on the matter without the pressure of having the question hanging over your head.

If you decide that you actually do want to participate—–because YOU want to, not just to make another person happy—you can always call back and say you changed your mind.

“No, period” is a complete sentence. You don’t have to explain. There is no need for a lie, an excuse, or even other plans. If you are asked, “Why?” you can say, “It’s just not right for me.”

If they don’t respect that, well, that is something very good to know about them, isn’t it?

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Seems to me that you already know you don’t want to act from service mentality.

Service Mentality From the introduction to our book The Choice for Consciousness, Vol. 2

Service mentality is the mistaken idea that you should put another’s journey before yours; believing your needs are secondary to others’ needs; the idea that “doing good in the world” comes before caring for yourself.

The most powerful way you can be in the world is by loving yourself well and then walking your life from the place of loving yourself well. When you love yourself well, you give the greatest gift you have to give, and that’s your uniqueness emanating. Until you love yourself well, you’re not really giving a gift. You’re simply doing. You’re doing and doing and doing in the world. But there’s no flavor. There’s no taste.
Healthy service is asking, “How can I emanate the highest possible vibration?”

If you choose to offer yourself in service, the first step is to ask your soul for insight, “What is it that best serves me in serving others, in offering myself to others? What serves me first, where will I grow the most?” You want to be in the most conscious frame of mind possible in order to interact at the highest vibrational level possible. Your emanation is your true gift.

Through the act of loving yourself, you give the gift of the truth of you to this world. There is no truth of you until it includes loving yourself. It doesn’t exist. “Empty calories” is a way to say it.

We see folks putting themselves out there in the world saying, “I want everyone to feel better, to feel happier, to have more, to be in a good space.” The idea is that taking care of everyone else first is going to be the path to your own bliss, your own peace, your own joy. We have not seen this work well long-term.

People who live to serve others appear energetically drained because their own needs have not been precious to them. They’re missing the core amount of attention, of rest, of nourishment, of peace, of quiet, of meditation, of walking, or dancing, whatever it is that feeds them as a person and keeps them whole. Folks in service mentality have been letting pieces of those things go to other people because they think, “Well, if they’re happy I’ll be happy or if they’re happy at least I won’t be so distracted by their needs.”

The path out of this is to set boundaries. Boundaries don’t mean: “I don’t love you anymore.” Boundaries mean: “I have to love myself first so I have extra love to give. I can’t give from this place. I have to give from a whole place.” If you keep giving from weakness, eventually you will have nothing left. If you set boundaries, you will rejuvenate yourself.

Unhealthy service mentality can be highly triggered when there are large “disasters.” You see something on the news and you think, “Oh my God, those people, they don’t have any place to live.” You look in your checkbook and you send off whatever you can send off and you think, “I wish I could do more.” If you feel that your money, time, or skills are the only way to “serve,” then you will often be frustrated. Remember, healthy service is asking, “How can I emanate the highest possible vibration?”

Investing in your energetic and raising your vibration is really the way you meet your desire to help the world. The key here is that you realize that as you raise your vibration and live more consciously, your awareness of others’ needs will expand yet your ability to physically interact with their needs will not. Use your free will to decide where you want to physically interact with others. How you manage your reaction to the areas where you are aware of the needs of others, yet cannot physically interact with them, is a spiritual challenge best handled by becoming more conscious which raises your vibration and increases your emanation.

It may be tempting to be so overwhelmed by the many “problems” in the world that you do nothing, including not work on yourself. We remind you, emanating your truth into the world is powerfully transformative. That’s the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to the world.

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I feel you actually have clarity about how you want to handle this situation. The residual guilt seems to be habitual response to acting on your clarity.

This Emotion is a Choice

One of the best ways to practice this tool is when you’re watching TV or a movie—one of those things that are very, very carefully designed to elicit a certain emotion in you. Be very aware of the fact that you’re being manipulated. Recognize that the emotion you’re having is an emotion that has many layers to it. One layer is manipulated creation and another layer is habit and another layer is authentic empathy with the person or situation.

Let yourself have the emotion, but know why you’re having it. If all of a sudden you feel sad or upset and you don’t know why you’re feeling that way, then ask yourself, “Is there any good reason to be having this emotion? And if there isn’t, then what can I ascertain about the state I’m in? This emotion has no basis in the reality of this moment.”

Your society places a lot of credence in “dealing with your emotions

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,” without any real investigation of what you’re feeling or why, or that you have any choice in the matter. This is where our example of the math problem comes in. What if we say, “What’s 9,897,209.5 times 8,239,203?” You wouldn’t take the first number that comes to mind as the right answer. Yet you’ll take the first emotion that comes in as an indisputably correct position. If you find yourself in an emotion that doesn’t seem actually relevant to the moment, be kind to yourself about it. Just remind yourself, “Oh yeah, that’s right, the first emotion that trips along isn’t necessarily the one I want to run with.”

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If you feel you need more support on the subject, we did an entire talk on Guilt and Shame. Click here for details.

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It really seems to me that you have a LOT of clarity and now you just need to hold firm in that clarity.

Who Answers the Door?

A practical example:
The ex-boyfriend is banging on the front door. You go to answer it, but you don’t want to talk to him. Ask yourself, “Who answers the door?”

Does the four-year-old who’s looking for her daddy’s approval answer the door? Does the 20-year-old who just wants a boyfriend because she doesn’t want to be alone answer the door? Does the 40-year-old who doesn’t want to be divorced answer the door? Or does the you of the now, that knows that guy shouldn’t be in your life, answer the door? Who answers the door? You decide that.

This tool is empowering because you say, “OK, I’m not bringing the 4-, 20-, or 40-year-old into this. The current version of me knows that I no longer want this guy in my life. The current version of me can say, ‘No’.” The four-year-old probably wouldn’t be able to say no because the four-year-old’s still looking for daddy to make it right. The 20-year-old still feels like she did something wrong, so she’s going to have a hard time saying no. The 40-year-old’s feeling like he might be her last chance at love, so she’s not turning him away.

But in the moment where you bring your high-vibrational self together and you look at that person and you say, “In this moment, with who I am right now, this situation is not OK, and you need to leave. Off you go. The door’s getting locked behind you.” And then you turn the ringer off on the phone and you just sit with the fact that you actually made a decision based on who you are today. That’s where you give yourself the gift of being who you are today and living your life from who you are today, rather than allowing old baggage from the past or projecting into the future.

Using this tool with family members:
A lot of times, when you’re working with biological relatives, the stuff that you’re learning about is the stuff from when you were five. However, now you’re 40 and you’re still doing your five-year-old stuff, often from a five-year-old’s perspective. Work on the issue when you’re 40 as a forty-year-old, rather than, “I’m 40 but I’m acting like I’m five, which I’ve been doing for 35 years with my mom.” This gives you a better chance of success, or a different chance of success—of actually learning and growing and becoming more of who you are.

Yes, you can say, “There’s something for me to learn here, but my God, me as a 40-year-old trying to act like an eight-year-old with my mom who is now 70, is not working.” It’s not working and you have the right to say, “I want to learn this some other way.”

This is loving yourself, giving yourself permission to set boundaries across your life. Set the boundaries you need to set in order to give yourself the best chance at learning what it is you desire to learn.

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Use the current version of you to stand firm in your clarity!

Thanks again for sharing your story.
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Blessings,
Veronica

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