Today is Tool Tuesday! Today’s tool is Preferences / Judgments

Judgment is not the same as preference. Judgment is the belief that you have to have a position against something in order to have a position preferring something. So, all of a sudden the choice between chocolate and vanilla must become, “Chocolate is a good flavor and vanilla is a bad flavor, so I am going with chocolate because that’s the good flavor,” instead of just saying, “I have a preference for chocolate.”

The interesting thing about that judgment thing is that you’re an immortal, infinite soul that chooses to have every experience you can manage. If you set out a lot of judgments and you start saying that vanilla’s wrong, then when it comes around time to experience vanilla you have to deal with the baggage of already assigning it as “wrong.” It’s always nice to just not put extra baggage on things that you’ll probably get around to wanting to experience someday. It’s also quite helpful to limit the amount of baggage (static) about anything you are experiencing.

Most of the time, we see that you had to make something wrong — sometimes VERY wrong — in order to set a preference because you weren’t feeling strong enough to just say, “No” as a complete sentence.

When you are new to boundaries and preferences you will sometimes believe that you have to get really worked up in order to use them. Actually, when you discover “What is true now?,” you can set boundaries and state preferences from a very calm place.

Keep in mind that there is a damned good reason for having a preference, which is: You’re a soul experiencing the physical form in a free-will zone. So, if you don’t have some preferences, what the heck is the point of being here in the first place? Not very much that we can see. Having preferences is the one of the main events!

Someone once said to us, “Well, if we are infinite and immortal, aren’t we going to do everything?” And we said yes, but you do them in an order. There’s an order to it. In a linear sense, there’s an order to it. Where today you decided to eat chocolate and tomorrow you’re going to decide to eat vanilla. Even if you’re immortal and infinite, you’re still deciding right now to be here instead of being someplace else. Preference. Choice. Free will. You don’t need to have something be wrong in order to have something else be what you want to do.

Coming from judgment is low-vibrational. It takes a lot of energy to stay invested in a judgment. It can be difficult to change your mind because you are so invested energetically in the judgment. Sometimes your identity can even be wrapped up in a judgment, which makes it that much harder to change. Judgments don’t serve you, on so many levels.

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Veronica writes:
Another tool to help you realize that you get to choose. This one helps me realize when I am actually choosing and when I am running an unconscious habit, which shows up as a judgment. I like vanilla and chocolate ice cream so this example is perfect for me. It really is expressing a preference in the moment rather than deciding on a right/wrong.

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This tool has whittled down my list of people, situations, and things that I have judgments around and helps me realize how many judgments came through societal conditioning. Preferences allow for choice through fascination and true passion of my life’s purpose. It brings me closer to the relaxed feeling of contentment and fulfillment.
—Deb

If you would like to read more of our Tool Tuesday entries, use these links:
Candle Wax (Nobody Gets Your Wax)
Who Answers the Door?
Velcro – Don’t Have Velcro For That

There are more Eloheim and The Council tools in our books:
The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living
The Homo Spiritus Sessions

We had a great Q&A with Eloheim this month. The theme that developed was: Relationships. Continue Reading…

Here is a new offering! Today is Tool Tuesday! Each Tuesday I will provide the complete description of one of Eloheim and The Council’s tools. Today we have “Candle wax (Nobody gets your wax)”

This tool is based in an analogy: You are a candle. You can share your flame—your emanation—but you cannot give away your wax. Never, never, never, never. If you give away your wax, you give away yourself, and who you are is diminished.

If you’re a candle, you can light numerous other candles with your flame, but nobody gets your wax. On some level, we see you energetically very drained because your wax has not been precious to you. That core amount of what you need to make you go. That core amount of attention, of rest, of nourishment, of peace, of quiet, of meditation, of walking, dancing, whatever it is that you know feeds you as a person and keeps you whole. You’ve been letting pieces of those things go to other people because you thought, “Well, if they’re happy, I’ll be happy.” Or, “If they’re happy, at least I won’t be so distracted by their needs.” When the truth is, you’ve gotten yourself drained and you’ll get further drained.

So, you can step back and set boundaries. And boundaries don’t mean: “I don’t love you anymore.” Boundaries mean: “I have to love myself first, so I have extra love to give. I can’t give from this place. I have to give from a whole place.” Because if you keep giving from weakness, eventually you have nothing left. But if you set boundaries, you rejuvenate yourself.

The first step is to set boundaries so that the people you’re giving your wax to don’t get any more. And they usually throw fits, so you have to deal with that. They’ll call you selfish, typically. Or they’ll call you a bitch.

Without being in service mentality, you’re offering something extraordinary. Because you’re not doing it for other people, you’re doing it for yourself and there’s just overflow. It’s the candle. The candle is lit and the flame is giving off light. It gives off light whether you hide it in a closet or you set it on your windowsill. And when you love yourself well, it’s like putting the candle on the windowsill and the people who are driving by see the light as well.

You can give your flame to anyone because it still burns even when you share it with others, but when you start giving your wax away it’s all over.
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Veronica writes:
This was one of the early tools and it is still very much in use. It is so very easy to get pulled into “service” and siphon off your wax. I know what that feels like and I am not going back there! It is such a joy to focus on emanating my truth and knowing that that is all the “service” I need to do.

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Habitual response of codependency felt seamless until I heard this tool. My sense of global responsibility burdened me in a way I thought was my identity as a “responsible person.” I felt guilty about not being able to help all women feel safe, for instance. Imagining myself as a being who has limited physical shape (the candle as my body) with unlimited consciousness and intention (the flame), I saw immediately that the love and attention I choose to offer a situation flows from a source that is constantly renewable. When I have used as much of my physical energy to support my intentions as I have available, I must rest without shame. Actually, to rest with relish, enjoying the dreams that replenish insights and creativity.
—Margy Henderson

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The candle wax tool is very good for me as I have a tendency to go out of my way to help others, sometimes to great lengths. So, the idea of sharing my flame and not my wax made very good sense to me. It’s helping me to be crystal clear on when I may be stepping over the line and when I need to reel it back in.
—Joseph

For more Eloheim and The Council tools, see our book The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living https://www.eloheim.com/dlg/cart/index.php?c=9

Here is the second entry in our new Guest Author series. The first entry by Randy Sue Collins about her Eloheim inspired coming of age ceremony for her daughter can be read on this page. Would you like to share your experiences with Eloheim and The Council’s teachings? Send an email to eloheimchannel@yahoo.com.

Dear Veronica and Eloheim,

Where do I start?!

Since I found you several years ago, the way I live and view my life has become easier, more peaceful and much clearer. The way I act and react has changed. You touched a chord deep inside me, and your methods and tools were exactly what I needed as my next step. As the saying goes, When the student is ready, the teacher will appear and this student was ready for the Eloheim.

Your humor and plain speaking is what drew me in, no esoteric, hard-to-understand speeches from the Eloheim. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I truly would love to be a physical part of Veronica’s group and just have conversations every week with her, the Eloheim and the rests of the Council. Ahhhhhhh……bliss.

Anyhow, my favorite eye opening moment was the Core Emotion tool**. I did a session with the Eloheim last year and worked on my core emotion. I have used this tool every single time since then whenever I am triggered by someone. Oh wow, there it is again, my core emotion rising up to bite me, asking to be healed. Each time though, it is smaller and smaller and more easily recognized and released. I am to the point now where when someone does something that used to trigger me, I can stand back and go, “Hmmmm, that used to make me feel like I don’t matter (my core emotion) but now I know I do matter, most importantly, I matter to me and it’s not important to my soul’s growth if they don’t feel the same.”

I can use a work example for you. This most recent event happened about two months ago. Last Fall, we changed departments and supervisors once again. They have moved my position five times in six years because they don’t know where to put us. We have grown and the need for us has grown but the company is still figuring our job out. This last time was upsetting because it felt like we “don’t matter,” again, it’s like we are the unwanted foster children and they just keep putting us somewhere, anywhere to get us out of their hair. I had to work through those feelings and I knew my core emotion was triggered big time but I did it and was able to help one of my other coworkers at the same time.

This last time two months ago I was triggered by a new demand they put on us that no one else has to adhere to, and I could feel those, “I am less than them, I don’t matter” feelings rise up again. It also triggered my control issues at the same time. Instead of stewing for a week, I was able to work through the feelings and be done with them in less than a day. Amazing. I do matter!! I have no control over anyone else, but I can control how I act and react. And I choose to value myself no matter the situation I am in.

I loved this Core Emotion lesson so much I took what I learned and taught it to my spiritual group in a class one night a month ago. I know I did not do as good a job as the Eloheim but I gave them and Veronica full credit for the lesson. I was able to walk one person through the steps so she could find her core emotion which helped the others understand how to do it. Yesterday I heard from my friend in the group that I had helped and she told me she used it to clear her emotions from an upsetting encounter with her sister. She says it usually takes her a long time to calm down and then she just represses it so she can move on. This time she says, “My emotional state dramatically changed.” This time it was crystal clear to her why she was reacting that way. Yippeee, the Eloheim strike again!

From their teachings, I am able to not take on someone else’s emotions and problems as my own. I don’t gather them and keep them anymore. With their humorous take on life, I look at things with a lighter view. And I can help others find their way with the tools too, giving the Eloheim full credit for them. I often remember the analogy they told us about how it was like we were put blindfolded, with the use of one leg and one arm, in a room full of obstacles and given the tail to pin on the donkey which was way over on the other side of the room. That makes me laugh and relax. Yup, that’s me, hopping wily nily through the room, I’ll get there in my own way and time but in the meantime, what an interesting trip! You just gotta laugh!

I could go on and on but I’ll stop now….

Thank you Veronica for being brave enough to put yourself out there and do this for all of us.

I love you all.
Dorothy
http://lifeheartandsoulblog.wordpress.com/

Thanks Dorothy! It’s wonderful to hear your story and see how Eloheim’s teachings have helped you. If you are unfamiliar with Eloheim’s Core Emotion teaching, here is the definition:

**Core Emotion (CE)
Your core emotion is a theme present in every thought, action, feeling, dream, hope, experience, and desire. It is present in all moments of your life. Your core emotion is unique to you and unique to this lifetime. Discovering your core emotion often answers long-standing questions such as: “Why does this keep happening?” “Why do all my relationships follow the same pattern?” “Why can’t I get past this blockage in my path?”

Most people experience their core emotion from an unconscious or unhealed perspective. Learning to work with your core emotion from a healed or conscious perspective is often described as “life-changing.” Since the core emotion is present in all aspects of your life, bringing consciousness to the core emotion brings consciousness to all aspects of your life.

The exploration of your core emotion is one of our specialties. We have a specific process for revealing your core emotion and helping you move from an unhealed to a healed relationship with it. Because of the intensely personal nature of this exploration and the time required to fully explore it, we only offer this process through private sessions. For more information, see the private sessions page.

Eloheim and The Council are best know for their straight forward approach and the myriad of specific tools they offer to help us move out of habitual responses and into conscious interactions with our lives. Their book, The Choice for Consciousness, Tools for Conscious Living, Vol. 1 features 22 tools along with over 100 definitions of terms and concepts. The Choice for Consciousness is available from all major, online, book retailers and by visiting this page.

Hello! The June 15, 2011 meeting was full of new tools and new concepts. The meeting started with me telling a story about a miraculous healing experience I had some years ago. I was very surprised that I told this story. I hadn’t shared it with many people. The Council refers to this story several times and used it to spark a fabulous conversation about possibilities.

I clipped out Eloheim explaining how you team up with your Soul. The YouTube video is below.

“You do things every single day that your soul can’t do and we can prove it to you!” ~ Eloheim

The Guardians: We feel more possibilities in your energy fields. Every part of you is accessible.

The Visionaries: We don’t gather to do small things. This is a serious process of transformation. We are here to help you do what it is you wish to do. You’re drawing out of us what you need. Where do you wish to go?

Eloheim: You are not a passive participant in your journey! “I created this and I am ready to have an active interaction with my creation.” Eloheim also spoke about the way you work with your soul and the team you create together. New tool: The circle of possibilities.

The Girls: Turn the tables on your reactions to your creations, when you wake up in the morning say “I am ready to interact with my creation!” Go on the offensive and kick your habits’ asses and name them as tools to use later.

Fred: Checked in on our crown chakras and advised us how to work with the energy we had received during the meeting. Say, “I see you” to the places that are ready for transformation.

The Warrior: Expanded on the “Circle of possibilities” tool and tied it into how it would look on the battlefield. They further explained how to apply it to our habits, fears, and insecurities.

Matriarch: Put her spin on the “Circle of possibilities tool,” expanding it in a powerful way.

Thank you Veronica & Eloheim!

I woke up this morning….I had made a list of goals yesterday and there were some things I had to do to make them happen………..things I didn’t really feel excited about…..but I said “I am ready to interact with my creation!” and pushed forward.

I had to stay on the phone on hold to deal with an old issue I’d been putting off. Luckily they had pleasant music and I was playing on the computer. During that time I received a payment for an order and someone inquiring to sell my product in the U. K………………I thought “Wow…..dealing with my creation isn’t so bad after all……”

Thank you!

I sell flower & gemstone essences: Here is the web page: http://ajourney4you.com/classes-2/ and here is the facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Journey-for-You-Flower-Gemstone-Essences/180929798629452

Just wanted to share….too much to type during a Wednesday night broadcast! LOL!

In Truth, Simplicity and Love,

Shelli L Speaks
Founder ~ A Journey for YOU

Audio from all six meetings of June, 2011

Q&A with Eloheim ~ 102 minutes

We had a great Q&A with Eloheim on June 12th. The list of questions answered are below.

Here is part of the answer to the question: I have been so unbalanced lately. Feeling very frantic and nervous and jittery. What’s happening?

During the answer, Eloheim referrers to their tool: Equal Signs. I have included the video about Equal Signs below. It’s a great tool, easily one of the most powerful tools Eloheim has given us.

Audio from all six meetings of June, 2011

Questions answered during the June 2011 Q&A:

I’m wondering what this squeaky, electronic crackling noise inside my head is. I have been experiencing this sensation since 2005, around the time that I had created an extreme victim situation where people were doing terrible things to me. This noise in my head often triggers me – it feels intrusive. I don’t know what it is, and I don’t like it a lot of the time. Is it my soul? I have no idea. It just feels really weird and I’m wondering why I still get it after all this time.

I’m not completely following a government rule to the letter that I don’t really agree with (not taxes). But keep feeling funny about it, it pops up every few months or so because of something I hear on tv etc. I get myself into a state, tight solar plexus, tight chest, everything tight and start attracting parking tickets etc. Then feel angry with myself for feeling this way as it really isn’t a big deal (especially when I look at what our politicians in the UK have been up to lately) and I need to look after myself, and I snap out of it. Although having healed a lot recently I have always seemed to feel guilty about something, most of the things utterly ridiculous, so I feel this could be about something deeper than the subject matter. It often drags me down when I get happy. Not sure what I should do about it in terms of completely clearing my negative feeling around this. I feel if I could get clear about this and my social anxiety problem I would be really happy!

I have something that I would like clarity on. When I’m in public, I have a conscious awareness that young children, elderly people, and animals, especially if they are very young, or very old, will stare at me for extended periods of time–they can’t take their eyes off me. It feels like some form of communication going on, but I really have no idea, so I just give them my attention and continue smiling through the moment. QUESTION: Does this have anything to do with ENERGETICS? And if so, what can I do to take this to the next level of consciously connecting with them?

I packed my car with essentials and drove out of my cage to a cottage in Ferndale. This adventure has been quite transformative. I got the insight that my triggers are my hand holds to ascension: the cottage was not clean, it is overcast almost every day, and I am very isolated with no friends around. I stated my preference about the lack of cleanliness to the property manager, and then started in cleaning, which I am still doing. It is a very grounding exercise. The overcast gives me the opportunity to find ways to brighten my day with things I love to do, or explore new things that might bring me joy. The isolation gives me an opportunity to connect deeply with nature and with myself. It also gives me the opportunity to be more outgoing when I am around others. My latest insight is to go more deeply into the moment with each of these activities, and to relax into not having to do something every moment, but to “be” more in the moment. The lack of sun really gets me down. The cleaning is not the reason I came here. When I am out in town, I have so much fun being with people and enjoying the new stuff, and then I drive back here and hate being in the isolation and cold and damp. Do you have any other tools I might use to deepen this experience in Ferndale?

I feel like I have dealt with my belly/back-up plan issue from last time so I would like to know what is the next biggest issue that stands between me and manifesting my freedom.

What do i need to know about the medical condition of bleeding during menopause?

I have been so unbalanced lately. Feeling very frantic and nervous and jittery. What’s happening?

I know I haven’t found “the perfect place” to move, but what I have available to me is really beautiful and has so much of what I want. My roommate has let me know in exact terms what is missing in my chosen place. In frustration over both his correctness and negativity I barked at him to stop. The interesting part is that I created all of this! Wow. How might I now create a voice of positive support?

What is the career that’s best for me? I’m 21 and have been getting into Reiki and learning spiritual tools and practicing seeing auras and being aware of the body and mind and what they’re telling me. I have a vision of what I want to be doing but I’m not sure really what is best for me to focus on to realize myself as a whole, enlightened being.

I was listening to an older meeting (June 2009) which contained a reference about obtaining the ability to “change our physical structure.” As this would be a really fun potential, I was looking for some more information in order to achieve this.

This week I am being triggered by a cousin of mine graduating. I want to transform this because I have had this issue since I was younger and I just want to heal it more than anything. The thing is that when I was younger I grew up in a very poor environment and we were kind of seen as the scrubby kids in the family; poor and always getting into trouble a lot. My cousins are younger than me and I see how the family treats them so differently. They make a bid deal about all their achievements and birthdays and how they do sports etc. The family never cared about our birthdays and we were too poor to participate in sports in school. I know I am sounding very victim mentality about this and what I am feeling is a lot of anger towards the fact that growing up nobody really cared about our situation or tried to help and yet my cousins are praised for everything they do. I know I create my own reality and I always am proud of the things I made it through as a kid but still I have an emotional response to the situation. Can you point me in a direction for transformation on this? I know I am not a victim but the emotion of it is hard to transform for me.

The question I have is about my dad. My dad is the only person remaining in my life that I feel continues to invade my day-to-day life with negative energy. There is a lot to this, but on a simplified level, he is the typical plugged-in, closed-minded mirror of the mass consciousness. While I am working to embrace uncertainty, my dad continues to try and push certainty onto the situations in my life (that involve him) so that he in turn can be certain of things in his own. This is extremely frustrating due to the fact that he is attempting to make plans around my living situation (I live in a house he owns), which in turn leaves me feeling rushed to make rash decisions. I’m anxiously awaiting the day that I am free of any obligation to my father, but until then, I’m stuck DREADING having to even speak with him (I simply can’t stand him anymore). Can you provide any helpful insight or anything that may help me with this?

Hello everyone,
We had a great meeting on May 25, 2011.

The Guardians: Spoke about how strongly they felt the group “emanating their truth.”

The Visionaries: Summarized “the plan” of this incarnation and updated us on our progress. “More often now you are being reminded of triggers rather than being triggered.” We are past the “prep” work and we are now living from the Homo spiritus paradigm.

Eloheim: Used several examples from the group to speak about setting boundaries. Eloheim elevated “setting boundaries” to equal importance with clearing static/baggage, transforming triggers, and breaking habits; setting boundaries is a vital step on the ascension process.

The Girls: Setting a boundary is a loving act! What you are saying is, “It is not my truth to interact with you in this way.” Don’t set boundaries from an energetically apologetic way – use clarity.

Fred: Made everyone laugh by trying to share his message in a quick way.

The Warrior: Talked about how they experience setting boundaries given that they live in a more survival oriented lifetime.

Matriarch: Enjoyed the irony that The Council is teaching us to set boundaries in order for us to learn that we are all one.

Audio from each of our five meetings held in May, 2011

Hello everyone!
Powerful meeting on May 18th, 2011 and I’m not the only one who thinks so!

This last channel was so great…there wasn’t a thing in it I couldn’t use…thank you so much.

There were so many amazing sections that I had a really hard time deciding which section to use for the YouTube video! I finally settled on “doing the stump and stew!”

You’re stumped and then you stew. Then you stew until you’re stumped!!

Those authority figure voices you are still hearing? You need to say, “Not my voice!”

When you know it’s not your voice, you won’t listen to it with the same authority!

If you have a project that feels stuck or confusion about moving forward, this is the video for you! It’s a longer video than I normally post, but I didn’t want to break up the teaching.

Each of the Council members made profound contributions to this meeting. Eloheim offered a new tool: “Past-Future-Moment,” told us what it looks like energetically when we are mean to ourselves, discussed the “Stump and Stew,” and explained how they are able to read our energy. Fred offered a powerful update about his portal. The Matriarch offered a new way of looking at our progress. The Girls talked about how when we deny an aspect of ourselves, we deny “the all” access to it as well. The Warrior offered further insight on how to work with the survival instinct.

Audio from each of our five meetings held in May, 2011

Wow!
I will say it again, WOW!!

The Matriarch closed the meeting by talking about the changes in our crown chakras.

It’s not WHY is this happening? It’s WOW this is happening!

This subtle shift of language facilitates a huge shift in perspective. Experiences are here to facilitate growth, expansion, and transformation. Nothing happens TO you, it all happens FOR you. You create your reality by choosing your reactions to your experiences.

Shift your perspective to WOW and then allow for your changed perspective to change your life.

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Hello everyone!
We had a great time during our April 20, 2011 meeting.

The Guardians talked about “becoming conscious of things you are not ready to attend to.” They reminded us that we can be aware of things, but not require ourselves to take action. “Am I really ready to interact?” They did not give us a pass to be unconscious of things, just reminded us that we can use our free-will to decide what we want to interact with. The Visionaries continued this idea and tied it to the concept of “going with the flow.”

Eloheim stayed on this theme. Their main talk started with: “If you were a Guru” and went from there. I chose it for the YouTube video this week.

Your awareness will expand and your ability to physically do something will not. What you choose to apply your physical skills toward is your free will and the difference [between the two] is your spiritual challenge. Eloheim

The Girls explained how to use the behavior we observe in others to focus our own spiritual journey.

When you become aware of other people’s journeys ….you are not emanating your truth if you are wondering why “they won’t get it.”

Fred made everyone laugh describing the sports he would want to play. Yes, he tied this into spiritual truths as well. He is amazing.

The Warrior told the story of their first time hunting a dragon and how they learned that “you don’t eat dragon.”

The Matriarch closed the night in her wonderful way.

Audio from each of our five meetings held in April, 2011